Most parents cringe when children lie.
Why do children lie?
Most parents cringe when they find that their child has lied to them. How could their precious child lie? Didn’t they teach their child to always tell the truth? Children lie more often than we’d like to believe, but because we have a belief that children should be sweet and innocent, it can be really difficult to deal with. Children are wonderfully complex beings and one part of their makeup is that they are able and willing to lie if a situation merits it.
There are good reasons for children’s lies. It’s often the only way they can think of, in their limited power, to control a situation. Children lie because they have been conditioned to, want to avoid punishment, and as a way to control information. Different aged children will lie for different reasons and at different times, but these reasons are the most common.
So Why do children lie?…
Mimicking What They See…
Little white lies are a fact of life. A child may hear his mother on the phone telling a small fib to a friend. Suddenly, he gets the idea that it’s okay to tell a small lie if the situation calls for it. It has become all too common for children to see or hear an adult telling a small untruth. It’s no wonder they don’t have a strong sense of why lying is wrong.
Why do children lie… Blame Avoidance
Many children, especially young children, will lie to avoid being punished for something they did wrong. The stricter the disciplinarian, the worse the lies get. Studies have shown that children as young as two years old are able to tell lies. And children get more practiced at the art of lying the more intelligent they are and the more opportunities they have to do it.
The Power Struggle
Since children do not have much power to control their own environments, they use a lie as a way to control information. A teen may choose to lie as a way of exerting power over their parent. A parent asks,“Who was at the party, son?” “No one,” they may respond. And so, the power shifts to the teen. He’s in control now and you’re the one left wondering.
Teaching children not to lie is a specific life skill that parents must instruct their children on. It has to start at home as that is where their core values are instilled.
Article: Why do children lie? Most parents cringe when children lie.
Article Source: Daily Babel
Guest Author: John Carter